Boone Wrote: unitedmajority I never meant to insinuate that every dad in prison was a dead beat. I apologize if my post sounded that way. I've had a crash course in the ways the State handles child support. I was railroaded in court over my oldest. That is until contrary to my thoughts at the time I decided to hire an attorney. I'll never enter another courtroom without one. Within 10min it was determined that the State was illegally collecting support. Was I refunded the $15,000 I had paid in that my child never received? No! That money was two installments just to keep me out of jail. They were going to send me to jail. I was sending support myself because 1st payment I made through the State had not made it a year later. It's not my duty to inform the State where the child and mother were living, but the State continued attempts to collect support. After many thousands of dollars they dropped it. I do not need a judge to tell me to support my children, nor do I need the State to collect this money. Sorry I harbor anger toward the methods used to collect support. There is more than monetary support when it comes to the non custodial parent. If they are a part of the child's life, the child is harmed by the jailing of the parent.
I have a big moral issue with parents that do not take part in their child's life and refused to pay support.Or the childish parents that use the child as a pawn against the other. A child has a right to both parents and each parents should promote the child to have a loving relationship with the other. Neither parent receives a title/deed to the child at birth.
Sorry for rambling on.
graywuf Wrote: It is hell to get child support if you're the father. My husband and I have custody of his child and despite court orders signed by a judge, the state has decided that because the mother is on SSI, she does not have to pay child support. So no matter what a judgment says, the state apparently can override a judges decision. She has not seen her child in 8 years and when we were fighting the system to get support, she didn't even contact the state to try and request a visit with the child. Last count is we are owed over $12,000. In the meantime, she's using the money from SSI for drinking and drugs (as indicative of her arrest reports).